We often hear this question, but there is no one size fits all answer. Factors like your gender, location, attractiveness and education would be influential factors.
My husband and I live in Cape Town, South Africa. People here are rather conservative, even though there is an active swinger scene. We are not part of it.
Food for thought...
What a strong woman!
A telling interview www.youtube.com/watch?v=ItUUmukrKM0 by Soft White Underbelly.
Have you thought about sharing your experience?